Your clients know what they want. They still don't do it.
You're sitting in a coaching session. Your client has clarity. They know what they need to change. You've defined goals, developed strategies, established to-dos.
Next session: Nothing has happened.
Do you know this?
- The client who has wanted to "finally set boundaries" for months and still doesn't do it
- The client who has understood what's necessary but is emotionally stuck
- The people who have all the tools but don't take action
- The moments when you realize: coaching techniques aren't enough. A deeper level is missing here.
Most coaching fails not because of lack of knowledge. It fails because behavior cannot be sustainably changed without emotional self-competence.
As long as your clients are not emotionally competent, all strategies remain theory.
Why Coaches, Trainers and Consultants Need ESM
We are Susanne and Arne Salig. For over 10 years, we've worked therapeutically and preventively with people. And we've learned one thing: The deepest, most sustainable change doesn't happen through strategies. It happens through emotional self-competence.
You can give your clients the best tools. If they're not emotionally capable of implementing them, everything fizzles out. That's why we developed the Emotion-Based Self-Competence Method (ESM). A scientifically grounded method based on two neurobiological foundations:
- The Love-Fear Polarity – All human emotions and behaviors can be traced back to these two basic emotions
- The House of Self-Competence – 7 dimensions of emotional competence that you can strengthen specifically
Over 1,000 patients treated with this method
Over 10 years of practical experience
Our referencebook will be published in January 2026 by Shaker Verlag
ESM is not a coaching technique. ESM is the missing level that turns good coaching into transformative coaching.
What ESM Changes in Your Work
Before
- You work with tools, strategies, goals
- Your clients understand rationally but don't take action
- You wonder why some clients don't progress
- You hit your limits with emotional blockages
After
- You work directly with the emotional foundation level
- You recognize WHY your clients don't progress and have the interventions for it
- You offer more than coaching - you offer emotional transformation
- You position yourself as a coach with a scientifically grounded method
Concretely, this means:
✓ Sustainable behavior change because you work on the emotional foundation
✓ Deeper processes because you go beyond surface coaching
✓ Clear diagnostics – the House of Self-Competence shows you immediately where your client stands
✓ Over 80 directly applicable tools – for every dimension of emotional self-competence
Training for Coaches, Consultants and Trainers
Theoretical Foundations
The Neurobiology of the Love-Fear Polarity
Understand why all human emotions are based on love or fear.
The Self-Competence Model
7 dimensions of emotional self-competence: self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-responsibility, self-care, self-esteem, implementation.
Emotional regulation and dysregulation
How emotional competence makes the difference between knowing and doing.
12 Modules – Your Path to ESM Practitioner
Module 1: ESM Foundations
Introduction to the method, Love-Fear Polarity, self-competence model
Module 2: Self-Awareness (Foundations)
The basis of all change: learning to perceive and categorize emotions
Module 3: Self-Awareness – Who Am I Really?
Authenticity vs. learned patterns in coaching
Module 4: Self-Acceptance
From self-criticism to self-acceptance – interventions for clients
Module 5: Self-Forgiveness
Working with guilt, shame, remorse in the coaching context
Module 6: Self-Responsibility (with Self-Efficacy)
From victim to creator – strengthening responsibility and agency
Module 7: Self-Care (Foundations)
Working with needs, boundaries, self-care
Module 8: Self-Care Top 3 – Stress Management
Understanding and regulating stress neurobiologically
Module 9: Self-Care Top 3 – Healthy Sleep
Sleep as an indicator of emotional competence
Module 10: Self-Care Top 3 – Setting Boundaries / Saying No
Setting boundaries as a central coaching topic
Module 11: Self-Esteem (incl. Self-Love, Self-Assurance & Self-Confidence)
The complex work with the self-esteem system
Module 12: Implementation into Daily Life
From coaching into daily life – sustainable integration
Practical Application
Over 80 coaching and consulting tools
Directly applicable in your practice – for every dimension of the House of Self-Competence.
Process design with ESM
Learn to structure coaching processes using the self-competence model.
Disorder-Specific Applications:
- Career reorientation
- Work-life balance
- Relationship building (personal & professional)
- Stress management and resilience
- Self-worth development
- Burnout prevention
Self-coaching tools for clients
Your clients continue working between sessions.
Format & Support
350+ Pages of Course Material
All theoretical foundations, interventions, practical examples
12 Live Calls (90 minutes each)
Direct exchange with certified ESM trainers, Q&A, supervision
80+ Interventions to Download
Worksheets, instructions, coaching tools for your practice
Practical Examples from Coaching and Consulting
Real cases, real solutions
Self-Study + Live Support
Learn flexibly, receive close guidance
Your Bonus Content (Value: €500)
Professional Self-Competence Analysis Tool
Automated diagnostic tool with graphic evaluation – use it directly with your clients.
Self-Assessment for Coaches
Strengthen your OWN emotional self-competence – because only those who are competent themselves can lead others.
Deep-Dive Questionnaire
In-depth self-awareness diagnostics for complex coaching processes.
After the Training
Your Certificate
After successful participation and passing the exam, you receive the
ESM Practitioner Certificate (application in prevention and personal development)
Your Network
- Admission to the international ESM Practitioner directory (optional)
- Access to the ESM Practitioner community
- Exclusive continuing education and updates
- Optional recertification and supervision
Your Marketing
Position yourself as ESM-certified coach/consultant
Use the ESM seal in your communication
Appear in the official ESM directory
Who Is This Training For?
✅ Coaches (Life Coaching, Business Coaching, Career Coaching
✅ Trainer (Personal Development, Soft Skills)
✅ Consultants (Personnel and Organizational Development)
Your Investment: € 2.500 (plus VAT)
Payment plan available (3 payments of €850)
Start: March 2026 | Spots: Limited
We work with small groups to ensure intensive support. Maximum 20 participants.
Ready to Integrate ESM into Your Coaching Practice?
You have two options: Option 1: You register for the waitlist and reserve your spot without obligation. Option 2: Free consultation call if you still have questions.