You're functioning. But are you also living?
You do your job. You take care of others. You get done what needs to be done. But when you sit on the couch in the evening, you ask yourself:
"Is this really me? Or am I just playing a role that everyone expects of me?"
Do you know this?
- You say yes when you mean no
- You're there for everyone, just not for yourself
- You know exactly what you need to change - but you don't do it
- You're exhausted from functioning, adapting, wanting to be perfect
- You have the feeling there should be more – but you don't know how to get there
This isn't weakness. This is missing emotional self-competence.
And you can learn it.
What is Emotional Self-Competence?
Emotional self-competence means:
You recognize, what you feel – instead of just functioning
You You accept, who you are – instead of criticizing yourself for everything
You You take responsibility – instead of feeling like a victim
You You care for yourself – instead of sacrificing yourself for everyone else
You You know your worth – instead of constantly having to prove yourself
This is not therapy. This is not a wellness program. This is the foundation for a self-determined life.
WHAT IS ESM?
ESM stands for Emotion-Based Self-Competence Method - Emotion-Based Self-Competence Method developed by Susanne and Arne Salig over 10+ years of therapeutic work with over 1,000 people.
ESM is based on two scientific foundations:
1. The Love-Fear Polarity
All your emotions and behaviors can be traced back to two basic emotions: love or fear. When you understand which emotion you're acting from, you can change.
2. The House of Self-Competence
7 dimensions of emotional self-competence that you can build step by step:
- Self-Awareness
- Self-Acceptance
- Self-forgiveness
- Self-Empowerment
- Self-Care
- Self-Esteem
The ESM Online Course: Learn at Your Own Pace
12 Modules That Will Change Your Life
Module 1: ESM Foundations
Learn to perceive your emotions instead of suppressing them
Module 2: Self-Awareness (Foundations)
The basis of all change: learning to perceive and categorize emotions
Module 3: Self-Awareness – Who Am I Really?
Discover who you really are - behind all the roles you play
Module 4: Self-Acceptance
From self-criticism to self-acceptance, the most important step
Module 5: Self-Forgiveness
Forgiveness for your mistakes, your past, your decisions
Module 6: Self-Responsibility (with Self-Efficacy)
Out of the victim role, into being the creator of your life
Module 7: Self-Care (Foundations)
The therapeutic work with needs and boundaries
Module 8: Self-Care Top 3 – Stress Management
Understanding and regulating stress - without yoga and breathing exercises as band-aids
Module 9: Self-Care Top 3 – Healthy Sleep
Why you can't sleep and what it has to do with emotional competence
Module 10: Self-Care Top 3 – Setting Boundaries / Saying No
Setting boundaries without feeling guilty
Module 11: Self-Esteem (incl. Self-Love, Self-Assurance & Self-Confidence)
Knowing your worth - independent of performance and recognition
Module 12: Implementation into Daily Life
From theory into your life - sustainable and practical
What You Get
12 Structured Modules
Theoretical foundations explained clearly. No jargon, just what you really need
Practical exercises for daily life
No abstract concepts - concrete tools you can apply immediately
Reflection Assignments
Deepen your self-awareness step by step
Lifetime Access
Learn at your own pace and come back whenever you want
Who Is This Course For?
For you, if you exhausted from functioning
For you, if you don't want to say yes anymore when you mean no
For you, if you finally want to live authentically
For you, if you want to be more than the role everyone expects of you
For you, if you are ready to get to know yourself – honestly and without sugarcoating
What This Course Is NOT
Not therapy (if you're experiencing mental health issues, please seek professional therapists)
Not a wellness program with self-love mantras
Not a quick-fix solution
Not superficial motivational fluff
This is real work. On yourself. With yourself. For yourself.
Your Investment
€ 39 (one-time payment)
What you receive:
Lifetime access to all content
12 modules with all theoretical foundations
Practical exercises for daily life
Reflection assignments for self-awareness
Important Note
This course does not replace psychotherapy. If you're currently suffering from mental health issues, please seek qualified therapists or physicians.
Ready to Develop Your Emotional Self-Competence?
We're starting in March 2026. Join the waitlist so you don't miss the start.